Men and women's different feelings and sex in eyes

Men and women's different feelings and sex in eyes
A lot of people think, mainly both sides exchange and set up the emotion for the love. However, if both sides need marriage to affirm and consolidate the love result finally, then they on the issue to it is much deeper to face one - -How to unite expectations and motives in the heart of hearts of both sides. People, in the relations of men and women, nothing more than there are 3 kinds of main expectation: Obtain love, get married and pass the legal sexual life. Everybody is wishing eagerly these three are unified in relations of both sides perfectly. It's a pity, uncountable marriage tragedies, all happen because these three were not united. There are greater differences between man and woman; To that are unified how about the three coordinate, there are quite different views too. The difference in this respect is mainly shown as two kinds of situations among men and women. Men and women's psychological development and ripe and out of step. A boy has reached adolescence, it is sex consciousness, sex requirement and sex feeling that develop at first psychologically. Begin to consider conscientiously by about 20 years old " The great event in one's life " When, he has already gone through " sexual life alone " in 56 years in fact (masturbation) ,Quite strong sex is hungry and thirsty after assembling. The man's love but development has later. How could expect, plan, grapple little man wrestling with external world one period of moment you, understand and show consideration for gently quickly, learn to care just right that cherishes another person? Getting married, the guy with the undertaking competition heart, means setting up one's own business first. If not inherent strong driving force is working, he prefers getting married a bit later. As a result, even a guy who loves the other side deeply, it is the right and proper idea to unavoidably reveal some unconsciously in his view - --Want the sexual life, want the love, then just there is a marriage. The girl is not like this. Her " daydream " Mostly the hope, crazy about and experienced alone to romantic love. Her persistent pursuit for love, abundant in content and fine and smooth understanding to love, the criterion almost harsh to the man, take root early in the heart, indestructible. Get married, is regarded as the homes of the life and love by most girls. Women that the great majority have never had the sexual life think, the sex is not an important thing, it is not even essential. So, a woman always swears to be single in some period when young. Very particularly high high-educated emotion person. The reason is very simple: There are few sexual lives alone of virgins, their psychological development is that the love worship early, it is early to get married and thirst for, but the normal full play of the latent energy of the sex has been often late after marriage for a long time. The love, marriage and sexual life are extremely different for both sides. To man, the sex is a symbol of the vitality, it is a young and beautiful sign, it is one of the motive power. So, two major shade of impotence and premature ejaculation hovers in man's brain for thousands of years. The man's sex is hungry, the woman is not intelligible. The man often regards the distillation of the regarding love as as one's own dignity, personality and value. If he loves a woman, will experience one's own loftiness from it. At this moment, he is frightfully sensitive when or insults any injurying. The woman regards the sex as the personality and self-value more. So she to a bit of sensitivity that does not respect, man very much difficult to experience personally too. Just because of this, all girls watch out for those piece, think but sexual intercourse love one's own man constantly, but there is a fault slightly, will offend those and love one's own guy wholeheartedly. All men always love a woman wholeheartedly, but carelessly, will be upbraided as by the girl " The lecher " . Also because like this, the guy always agrees what intensity behavior is made according to the wife, how deep to to judge the relations of both sides! He is unable to understand, a woman has had kissing or sexual intercourse with oneself, why can also suspect one's own love, even " get rid of " Oneself. The girl's judgement marks the criterion totally one's own heart experiences, does not lie in what the husband does specifically. Still because like this, the woman is apt to regard sex as the tool, dedicate to or clamp down on the other side. The man is apt to regard the love as the tool, get the other side or punish the other side. The woman is apt to suspect the emotion or loyalty of the other side; The man is apt to suspect one's own sex ability or glamour. Why present two kinds of above-mentioned differences of men and women? Men and women are different innately, lie in love, marriage and sexual life even more, the difference of the quality really exists. It is that the goals of the three are different at first. The goal of the sex is to reach orgasm and relief finally, the goal of the love is to establish a kind of deepest interpersonal relationships. But the marriage should make up a family. The tissue shape of the human society has been determined, if emphasize a certain goal excessively, will damage other two goals. The differences of men and women can't be coordinated unless improving oneself through both sides. Complete, but 3 kinds of goals are all gone to pursue hard, entrust the equally important meaning, do not need one to belittle or suppress another one definitely. Secondly, the difference of the sex, love and marriage, lie in the carrier ranges of the three are different. Sex, fundamentally, it is a kind of single activity. Love but activity between the two people, scarce to respond to difficult to be lasting each other. The marriage should involve families and future children of both sides, it is the activity of a kind of more than - people room. So, the difference between three carrier, in fact just require people to be already " selfish " And " unselfish " ,Kenya also dares to ask for devoting. The love, a kind of preview and practising, demand not to overlook either of the two too. (www.qianlong.com)

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