Men and women should ask downwards boldly!

Men and women should ask downwards boldly!
Keep between the key couple of the good relation communicating with each other in sexual life is very important, but difficult, it will be very difficult sometimes. The couple that perhaps have rest the head on all one's life together, have not really reached the understanding and communication each other of the sexual life at all. If you do not understand the husband (or the wife) at all What is wanted wholeheartedly in sexual life, how can you really satisfy he (she) (used at the end of a special alternative, or rhetorical question)? If both sides are not clear whether to really meet the other side's heart's demands in the sexual life, and harmonious and happy on how talk? Perfect sexual life, is not born what everybody knows, but should study constantly and improved. The perfect sexual life is not several simple movements: Insert, twitch, ejaculate, withdraw, that's it. Satisfactory sexual life, there are various indispensable key elements. Mutual understanding, respect and meet sex of the other side's needs, it is a key element among them. " Eat color, sex even " ,People often " The food " With " The color " And carry, " The color " Than " The food " Much more complicated. You should understand what the husband want to eat, easier, you will not be too shy to ask what he likes eating at least, you know the meat beyond the scope of the pork, beef, mutton, chicken too Red meat, fat Fresh meat, frozen meat, cured meat You know how to ask, know too that asks about the detail, if should hot, with sugar, like that. " The color " (sex live) Different. You may not have face that bring the matter up to ask at all. " The sex " The thing was originally made through the ages and can only be done secretly, discussed in can't be bright. What's more, it is inclusive that the sexual behavior still involves yourself's own behavioral cooperation, more unable export of some questions. What's more, the intersection of people and the intersection of classification and item in sexual behavior, as familiar with so the food; Even if the one that is familiar with, not as easy to explain like food either, because is centring on a certain concrete sexual behavior, there are difference of too much folk culture, the permission of the morals, law, a lot of deep and big problems. Deep, deep faith and desire with inherent soul; It is big, even as big as may violate the prohibition and break the law. Take U.S.A. as examples, the US Supreme Court has issued the law and forbidden the rectum to be handed in in 1986, rectum nature pay and violate the law then! On the other hand, even if you are too brave to avoid " Lascivious" Dislike,ask because it is come to export, be brave to answer out true either in one that is for husband. The desire of heart has no border. Even usually thought to be by people " Obscene" , " Vulgar " ,even " Shameless" , " Violate the law " ,one that in the brain can think,even think terribly. But say that does not dare to say, do not dare to do --Unless the other side has this hope wholeheartedly, are willing couple try together. But ask, export, say, how can reach, try on realm together? That is to say, it is real to know the other side clearly " The interest of sex " ,Overcome a series of psychological obstacle. Even if we do not tear the question so far, so complicated, but get back to the most regular vagina and hand in, also a lot of details involve both sides, should understand each other, such as any body postures, how to vary etc., not it is the couple that can discuss up, cooperate very well. Germany says that the famous man sexology expert's cypress Nicaragua of U.S.A. is neat and outstanding: " The man is afraid of being refused, afraid of being considered unusual, or only coy, can not quite be positive tells their hidden desire. " However, you can be from some signs to judge whether the husband feels unsatisfied with the sexual life, and ask to some extent separately. For example, while asking about their satisfaction, prevaricate, talk packthread a bit, or the frequency of carrying on the sexual life voluntarily is obviously reduced etc.. Mr. Rose says: " I like the wife to stroke me However, she never does it in this way, I am too shy to say way and position in which she touches are wrong. " Usually the husband occupies the initiative, leading status in the sexual life, this has already become a kind of social stereotype. However, a lot of men have an inherent hope, hoping the wife takes the initiative sometimes, leading factor life, they can relax the enjoying happiness. The doctor says that the sex of Chicago treats the match of house and ties tight: " If your husband advises you to try the same something new, you don't feel very ashamed or demonstrate that is frightened terribly as much as possible. This kind react, make gate that exchange from sex totally close among the couple, have no reason to show to will make a man think of out his inherent desire again. " The clinical psychologist simple Dr. Wolff says: " Even if not you really like your husband's proposition, but only possible, will try hard to try with him soon, so can train a kind of atmosphere, both sides respect the other side's will very much, and would like to realize these wills together. These kind of atmosphere, to the sexual life, and the whole conjugal relation outside the the sexual life is of much good. " However, the experts all agree, the even painful, harmful thing of making one party feel bad very much, unacceptable. Dr. Wolff thinks, it is very painful if get being a little uncomfortable and encode into 1- 10, then, in the thing of under 5 or 5, are worth trying. When can compromise, it is good to compromise. Really can't compromise, unlikely to damage the marriage too, so long as you have a kind of sincerity to listen attentively to his voice, and really trying some with him, you can accept " The new thing " . " Communicate, communicate, communicate again --This is the key to keeping good relation " . While talking, should be in smooth-going, way to inspire, there don't be composition forced, threatened. Take one attitude that try on, don't have one absolutely well first, absolutely broken stiff attitude. Each side lists a table, according to your wish of a certain systematic arrangement, exchange this table each other, work out a scheme together, try. Try not to demonstrate you are frightened terribly by the other side's idea, don't ridicule the other side because of listening to the other side's hope. No matter tried successfully newly, you always often ask about the other side voluntarily, there are He Xin's wishes. Pursue the renewal of couple life, pursue the improvement of the couple degree of being active of life, absolutely not time of tasks once in a while, but one need the intersection of couple and all the life untiring, happy a happy one of counterpart hand in hand " The sex way " . (www.qianlong.com)

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