Why is the man shy - -Splitting personality
Graduate of teachers college makes some after a middle school teaches, he is unwilling to go to the lecture platform to take on teaching in any case. He says to the headmaster, always fear a lot of occasion of people oneself shily, time at school right away very afraid to teaching practice, like, get library go, manage books. Mobilize, advise, let some agree and have a class reluctantly repeatedly. Have the intersection of section one and period, he see sit teacher and headmaster of teaching and research room behind the dozens of student, he is very flurried, can't utter a word in half a day. The result of this class can be well imagined. Through understanding, he is at home and school at getting unsociable and more eccentric very,timid, getting more talkative non-, non- good social activity, the teaching practice gulfs. Having no choice, the headmaster have to arrange for him to arrive school in the library to work. The behavior of this young teacher has the characteristic of splitting personality, the so-called splitting personality (someone calls it as personality timid and weak-willedly and feels self-humiliation) ,Have some such manifestation: Introversion, unsociable and eccentric, timid cowardly feel self-humiliation, not shy of few words liking, associating, caring the intersection of others and appraisal in he, lacking knowing already, behavioral odd habitting (can make people understand)ing . Though they have not lost it to realistic cognitive ability, the social circulation is bad, lack enterprising spirit again, often sit quietly and ponder, wallow in illusion. The self- centre is inclined to obviously, standoffish to people, shy with strangers, does not greet with people voluntarily, also unwilling to get involved in others' thing, especially avoid the disposition border of those competitions. Have self-confidence almost, fear, speak, do things in front of others, words on the tip of one's tongue hesitate, stand up right away often, mutter and mumble, tense all over, helpless and without resources; It is unwilling to be seen by others to do the homework, write the article or do other things, fear to be sneered at. Because of drift apart others, make oneself feel, isolate day by day in colony too, embarrassed. Have person who split people of personality very difficult to meet the intersection of people and many occasion and the intersection of need and frequent work that associate directly teaching, propagate agitating, literature and art, public relations,etc., but can still meet people's few work such as library, laboratory, weather station, relay station of broadcast and television, warehouse,etc.. Learn to lag behind those commonly in splitting personality, achievements are small, on person with low position in the colony, women exceed men. Some people may keep all one's life, the division type personality of some people among them may become the morbid state personality foundation of schizophrenia, so that develop into schizophrenia. But splitting personality is not a real psychosis yet, it is not following presenting pathology the special symptoms of illusion, vainlying hope, emotion indifference, thinking and behavioral disorder,etc. schizophrenia. The main reason for splitting personality is that an individual can't adapt to the environment. The person with splitting personality generally has stronger self-esteem and enterprising spirit in teenagers period, enable they often the setback, fail, be diagraceful or lag behind for various reasons, respect that needs to be satisfied for a long time, therefore the characteristic of feeling self-humiliation, timid and weak-willed, timid etc. is developed, strengthened and consolidated gradually, become the steady personality characteristic on him. For example, aim too high, ability is insufficient, or lack the cooperation experience, therefore suffer the setback; Lack chance, cooperate with others bad, interpersonal relationships harmonious, succeed seldom; Often criticized excessively for and cursed and beaten by parents, teacher or higher authorities' too severe criticizing, he humiliates in public, wait a moment, will injure their self-esteem seriously; Influenced by the environment is inhibited or social idea (such as " The woman is not so clever as the man " , determinism of heredity, fatalism,etc.) ,Natural gift is not so good as people to acknowledge oneself, or have bad luck and so as to explain one's own situation, comfort oneself with thought. Its result must encourage and feel self-humiliation the psychology; Introverted, non- good contacts, make them not understand the person around, others do not understand him either, it is difficult to be sympathize with, forgive and help by others. Then the personality characteristic of feeling self-humiliation, timid and weak-willed, timid and introversive etc. is strengthened and melted to consolidate even more. Splitting personality is often maintained for all one's life from the moment that childhood one takes shape, seldom change, and various manifestation are more steady, not incident decline. This kind of morbid state personality that there is no special drug therapy so far. But intelligence of splitting personality still belongs to well, some people still can obtain the remarkable achievement, some Chinese and foreign artists, philosophers and natural scientists belong to splitting personality. So, the person with this kind of personality symptom mustn't feel self-humiliation, should dare to acknowledge one's own personality defect, notice that keep in touch with others more, don't be always anxious will be sneered at or misunderstood; Should talk, associate with people as happily easily as possible, the mutual understanding with others in associating with people, try to receive others' understanding and help, replace loneliness with friendship. Others praise you because you for his help, this is contributing to helping you to get rid of and overcome and feel self-humiliation, timid and weak-willed, strengthen feeling of success and self-confidence. In addition, must abandon the view that the determinism of heredity, daughter are not so good as man and fatalism, make great efforts to struggle in practice, amend stupidity by diligence. Believe " Nothing in the world is difficult for one who sets his mind to it " This maxim. It suits oneself in the specialty and struggle direction of the condition so long as make an accurate selection of, through one's own efforts, can unquestionably move ahead.
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