What do men and women go to bed and say?

What do men and women go to bed and say?
A lot of questions are different to answer in the world, use and make clear in a few words at least. A male friend says: " I have a question unable to ask for advice to others, but suppress and does not feel better in the heart, have to pour out to you through the letter. I can be said to be articulate in daily life, very humorous and witty too, but get in the sexual life, I seem to become a dumb person, any words can not be said out, seem to be showing a silent movie from the beginning to the end, certainly, I do not have nothing to say, wonder what to say until what when talk suitable, talk what can let wife to be repugnant, what can not said to spoil the fun In a word, I hope you can tell me, how to solve those problems in the above. " This is a very interesting question, it sounds very simple, but answer the difficulty must be very big. Because there are a lot of things in our actual life that is such. Up till now, return to nobody and count the speed, content, frequency that people talk in sexual life. During the sexual life, it is an extremely rare phenomenon to say no word. Some words must say, because it concerns the going on of sexual life directly, belong to technological properties; Some words can say, say but it involves the affection exchange in the sexual life. To those if saying, we have no necessity canvassed, but to the latter, but we should make there emerged a the reason why. The sexual life is so modern as to break as a topic " Sex, can be sensed,but not explained in words " Modes traditional after,be can mention people oftenned, be even not getting getting more excessive more very either when talking about by slighted, for example, on the wine desk that a gang of men make up, it is not rare to describe the sex or sexual life, though some languages of talking in professional jargon type employed frequently. But a interesting one, been sexual life really, people go, say it directly seldom instead. If said while making, then like sexual life, inverted image put on a demonstration of technical training. The reason among them is self-evident: When it showed all that people have already spent to take action, the language became burdensome. However, the essence of the question lies in, the simple human body without language is exchanged, will reduce the sexual life to the excited level of the instinct, this is also what a lot of modern people can't tolerate. Then, we found the key of the issue here, that is to need languages to communicate in the sexual life, but its content not only can't touch the sexual life can't digress from the subject too far but also. In the health consultation of the sex, we do not fear a little to perplex people's so-called difficult problem seriously very much, because since these problems perplex people seriously like this, already sure both at home and abroad someone has worked hard in this respect, there is riper theory or already draw and relatively persuade people's conclusion to come, what we do is to combine these theories with concrete practice, tell the friend coming to consult. However, we are often given asking by some topics which seem very simple, for example have one like, wear clothes, brassiere of wife Dai of wife make love could man, acquired character of pleasant sensation ask me once: Why are the people with these kinds of defect of mine men's and do not have women? I remember I really had nothing to say in reply at that time. What he says is really a fact. After the thinking for a long time, I found another fact that can well answer him in way to reply: It is graceful freely in life why modern woman can wear the trousers in men's style, but modern man dare anybody put on dress of woman, appear on a public occasion nearly? The conclusion is, culture causes, this has reflected discrimination of women of man right society. It digresses from the subject too far to be those regard sexual life as mistake that couple make often that do routine business. As to this kind of phenomenon, a short story has done the excellent description. The protagonist of the novel is a pair of peasants married couple, they are sincere and straightforward and good-natured, kindhearted and loyal, cultivating the land which belongs to them industriously. Tired one day later, they lie on the adobe kang side by side, the wife is that the sleepiness is dim at this moment, but not forgotten to inquire whether the husband closes tight in the chicken coop, don't let the yellow weasel seek loopholes. Quiet husband climb, come over, wife speak, stick to, pass by body no longer, and then certainly the violent storm of that kind of sexual love among couple. Everything has gone over soon, the wife puts underwear in order, what will be eaten tomorrow morning discuss with husband. Husband's tired strength has come up, say " At will " ,Stand up to fall asleep. I have read this novel, Zeng someone said at that time this was Chinese peasant's classical sex life style. Yes. This section describes that though comes from the literary works, but literature comes from life, the authenticity of its life is indubitable. Some couple who have got married for many years, no longer pay the sexual life with the special attention, in their eyes, sexual life and trival matters of the daily life are totally same, therefore can mention in the same breath. Since so, the sexual life would not bring special fun to them. But if couple hold a same attitude, such without language the intersection of and exchange go bankrupt what harmful effects does it will bring either, because actually their expected value to the sexual life is not high, so long as it is satisfied and enough to get the physiological one. Can in actual life, especially among such a metropolitan couple us live a life, this kind is almost still relatively rare in the numb attitude, especially women, their response to this respect is more sensitive, if the husband takes words completely off the point out of the mouth, they will be angry and unhappy, think men absent-minded, does not pay attention to oneself. They hope man performance express liking to oneself by language, if these languages are accompanied, they will accept male sex request joyfully. In sexual life, women have words can say but they are acting the audience most of the time too certainly, but causing the role talking should be acted by men. Men should grasp " From and can't be more close, from and can't be more dark " Principle. From far since light, mean before contact begin, man although already sexual sprouting in the heart, want, control a little temporarily, say some relaxed happy theme. Propose some couple, for a sexual color in ideal talk,with one's own or sex contact begin soon at the moment relations direct, for example the humour or joke of the pertinency is said etc.. If can not find these talks, can discuss emotion, life, work, study vaguly and generally, but should notice that must not be concrete, does not look for those topics apts to be controversial. After entering substance contact stage, will be relatively reduced ,But the intensity should be strengthened, that is to press close to your emotions and sexual behaviors of both sides. Generally speaking, women like listening to men of people most at this time " The honeyed words " ,Such as " The sweetheart " " Baby " " I love you " ,etc.,it certainly like too listen to they the compliments of the physilogical characteristics. Some words may feel difficult to explain in usual, the other side listen to too can blush heartbeat, but said, both sides will not have ashamed sense, will feel very comfortable instead at this moment, analyze, stand up conscientiously afterwards, you too can think some words exaggerate, but will not make such rational analysis at that time. Needn't make the uncovered, undisguised, expression making people sickening selecting words at all when acting on a momentary impulse, the other side will not treat this kind of expression according to the requirement at ordinary times. No wonder someone says, the animal that the man is defeated by strength, and the woman is easiest to conquer by the language. It have say women friend after sexual intercourse begins jointly sometimes act out of character of companion one's own more and more. Have, investigate, prove this one technological means, so a lot of men, in order to divert one's attention, in order to lengthen the time of ejaculating. Generally speaking, the wife is able to understand and is appreciated to this male move, but men need to pay attention to, should have certain sex color if saying at this time, can't tear too far, by keeping the excited levels of sex of both sides. Analyzed the language application of whole course of making love just now. And then, it is the language after the sexual intercourse that has been expressed. There are materials that indicate, after sexual intercourse is shut, there is obviously more and more what men and women said, the sentence is lengthened short too, its content needs to pull open certain distance with sex emotion and sexual behavior of both sides again. But speak to compare before beginning with the contact of sex, it should not be vague and general, and should be a little more concrete, for example can discuss the sex feeling just now briefly, both sides will feel joyful thing emotionally in other words. Here need to pay attention to talk detailed specifically, fall into, discuss or summarize the experience, realize and exchange, because your both sides need to have a rest, the appropriate language is exchanged and exactly prepared for the thing that you fall asleep easily.

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