The man's middle aged storm comes to attack _'s marriage psychology of the omen

The man's middle aged storm comes to attack _'s marriage psychology of the omen
Have heard a friend say her husband has been a little unnatural recently, because he:
First, resigned suddenly, said that would make wine;
Second, think that travel by oneself;
Third, watch the whole world pleasing to the eye, break to pieces to read all day long;
Fourth, begin to take notice of one's own yaito tuna belly, pine for and build up body;
Fifth, bought a heavy-duty locomotive suddenly;
Sixth, want to change, but can not say what oneself wants on earth;
Seventh, baffled feels lazy, to all losing motive force.
Be careful, perhaps this is that he steps foot on several signs of the middle aged storm.
According to the clinical observation of the doctor of psychiatric department, because the long-term one suffers from insomnia, agitated, easy weariness Wait for body and mind anxious symptom and middle aged patients seeing a doctor to be more and more, and men obviously exceed women.
Age of them in 45 year old or more, have parents, children cook sandwich generation of money nearly more. The intersection of they and some advanced age unemployment face, have five son pass the civil service examinations too, it seems, but lost the direction suddenly life, they say they do not live very steady and surely, confused to life
This group of people can say that is going through the middle aged storm. They might not suffer from melancholia or have man's involutional signs, but nearly all accord with symptom of the extensive anxious disease.
Man about in 40 s, kinds of looks establish roughly already life. There is no capital to get into serious trouble, all things seem to only have 1/2 left, shoulder the heavier in but obligation and responsibility, value is pushed to nearly see oneself.
Men bore the society to expect, the individual character eager to do well in everything was constrained while as a child. Come from the pressure that the family, job market topple the mountains and overturn the seas, and belly and eyes bag with gradually flagging middle age, turn super combustion-supporting pharmaceutical of man's middle aged crisis one by one. And middle aged the intersection of storm and most old crisis, buckle board machine by mistake, want face transfer the intersection of duty and fail, unemployment, extramarital relation, divorce, the intersection of parent-offspring and the intersection of relation and the intersection of person who break and consequence to and then.
Perhaps do madam want to ask, does not day just pass carefully like this? Is the middle aged father thinking on earth what it is? In fact, go to work and come off duty, meet and send off children every day, then go home and is read by the wife, this kind can expect but repeated barren life, exactly what question is all about.
The child was born, the beginning which the man lost
New role's difficulty will be quite high that the man will enter father smoothly, and one is full of power to lose and move and turn over Cheng. Under most states, the child was born, representatives were that mother had had children, it was not always that parents had had children together. Mother's maternal instinct, make them only see the baby can feel incomparably joyful when drinking the milk, my father does not completely understand. After there are children in the family, the child will become a host at once, father and mother become slaves. In happy the intersection of family and story, my father watch, have about one's own the chapter often, become reticent Teller-Stella slowly.
The child's birth, inspire the first largest catalyst in man's middle aged crisis.
The married father's friend encloses, produce the qualitative change too after there are children. March toward 40 year old, friend arrange make up, colleague, the intersection of child and parents of friend, the less have capital that discuss the self-actualization, the livelihoods of people will be moved with the child when being rowed, can only try every possible means to put the self-actualization into family and job market.
A lot of couple are confusedly busy after the child was born in to change direction, have no time to look after it each other. The man feels that does anything and can not be appreciated, considered as at home naturally. The estranged conjugal relation makes men constantly taken to task, the person like half a piece of imprisonment.
The bottleneck in the job market, force middle aged man's limit of facing one's own ability. Looking on it as physical power and youth striving no longer, the middle aged man must seek the meaning of the work by oneself again, it is a cruel test even more.
In the job market the development of middle aged man just as bumps against the ceiling and blocks above, it is in a dilemma. Want to take charge of the whole locality or begin all over again, is afraid again that does not have that weight oneself; If the on-the-job field is comfortable enclosed and stayed for a long time, it is panic, unhappy to begin unavoidably, because this violates them and opens up the natural instinct explored at all.
The strong pressure initiates and fights and escapes from the effect
The middle aged man describes oneself, it seems every day is thrown into the high-speed pressure juice extractor, walk around and rotate, will make great efforts to keep the true features. The middle aged man has left the last kind of mood that lets angrily, they watch the whole world non- pleasing to the eye, other people think them very disagreeable too. Escape from the effect, let the man under the circumstances that the head is not a very clear state in fight that the strong pressure initiates, make and sell the excited decision that oneself confuses even more; Tell madam run, leave office already suddenly some day, think with associating, can prove than the intersection of oneself and little girl a lot oneself store meaning in, not even younger still.
The middle aged storm is always self-criticism of reason, meaning and motive why the man lives on to oneself. American psychologist Daniel. WenSen Li point out middle aged man and care people of him should realize in " the middle aged the intersection of madam and club ", one's own life when he explores, assessing and changing the tactics of the second half of life again, it is in fact normal and healthy course.
Though middle aged the intersection of Xing and firm the intersection of ketone and density of man will drop slowly, the intersection of they and kind face throughout one's life, need much affirmation. The remaining half of middle aged storm in the face of the family, the expert reminds unanimously, woman's excessive care and hope are greatest chains, the patient one listen and is accompanied firmly, will help him to hold out through the best tactics of the middle aged storm.

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