The man " Restrained" Why? ! --Weight-reducing network of the health

The man " Restrained" Why? ! --Weight-reducing network of the health
Restrained calm and steady, persistent one's own views of few words, have been considered to be man's ripe sign for a time, more and more in the pluralism, society of internationalization, can't meet new culture, holds different ideas and moves towards the impeding of broader world as men in one, on this, the woman seems to behave more positively. Party is frightened: No one it cuts Is to be to judge open important index in social size of circle in man. Most men look amiable, but there is a kind of inherent making excessive demands on target of associating at heart, say " birds of a feather flock together, peple of one mind fall into the same group " just as the Chinese old saying . A authoress says: "Having crossed the 30 -year-old man, does not have social ability, he will keep a kind of prudent distance of contacts with all friends. To those friends better than him, he has a kind of obvious psychological defence, weaker than he, he looks down upon again. This lady then says: "Not long ago, I went to Britain to participate in a cross-cultural literature and exchange the conference with a man colleague, have a variety of ethnic group and each scholar of nationality at the meeting, everybody though each other very much difficult to merge, but make great efforts to look for but the thing of the exchange commonly. To me, heart does not feel a pain very much in this kind of environment not very apt to merge, the language is not very good, but the expression and some gestures will not be misunderstood. That man colleague of the counterpart's seems very poverty-stricken, rub to people's few places to the limit, foreign language is not spoken smoothly, the expression is very unbearable too. Let me feel he feels a pain, overcautious very much, seems to overwrite " no one speaks to me " on the face . Read, reply people of " the morning in Shanghai ", know, the social activity is men's business week, but any formal social activity man needs the beautiful and lively woman to function as " Lubricant " ,Guided and explained " The social butterfly " . But at network age, culture and resource-sharing in the concept of global village make any kind of provincialism, race, gender lose its unique meaning, modern social life women no longer set off. I have had experience like this too oneself, have studied the psychoanalysis in three years with German experts, besides exchanging on the speciality, it is very difficult for our talk to enter the private field. And women students seem much freer, they seem to like keeping in touch with people on the aspect of the emotion innately, but not role dealings. Unless it arrive it learn over, remember several name of girl of HELLO only German Mr., for boy 1469 call! " . It is stubborn and restrained that the man is on the social activity, the odd habit that seem very sometimes. I know one very successful man, he consider superior, subordinate coming and going by neighbour, relatives and friends worth doing, really come and go all alone. The only hobby is to like making the billiard ball, command the pole and bat, what snooker, design knocking ball, say, clearly and logically, begin to fight hand hand in conformity with the heart. But should chat with him, you can not find the language symbol that can be exchanged. Psychology thinks the man needs sense of safety in social activity even more, needs a kind of personality mask in order to conceal one's own true emotion and thought even more. And women, so long as there are proper clothing and suitable makeup that oppose the constrained sense. Can't be offended from my boundary The flexibility of the individual character, the ones that conducted oneself in society are optimistic, it is another open index that the ones that act resort to trickery to serve self. In the social life, we will often find, under the circumstances that clever and wise and farsighted, beautiful and generous women assist, the men can still keep cultured and graceful somewhat, but lost women and made lubricant, in the man crowd, the one that left is only oppressive. A woman's white collar says: "Man really a bit strange, highland draw a long bow while being rich day at home, see other man have what can say. One day, I met girl friend for many years, is taking the husband respectively, we had a chat very happily, but does not speak very much from start to finish between two men. When we stand up to another place, sit in so each silence of two men, who it seems that no one knows. On the contrary, I go the intersection of husband and the intersection of friend and house, I and wife of the other side soon more difficultly to divide into and difficult to forget affectionate, husband and brother of him go bankrupt widowed language stand up slowly, become, set off people. " Studying eastern culture, you will find under the influence of Confucianism, self-esteem and face are to fetter the man's spiritual bound foot, make them lack the optimistic, lucid and lively and flexible self- attitude. The so-called eastern man in foreigner's view " Magnanimous and bear patiently " ,In fact has represented a kind of deep inferiority complex. Psychology thinks the man needs the clearer one from my boundary than the woman, therefore is just easier to experience that is offended. It is that one narrows it from the half measure of my boundary to inhibit, but is constrained to make the man lose and optimize one's own mental state and ability of the mood. The open person does not actually take notice of and speak frankly oneself very much, because he has admitted oneself unconditionally, therefore can admit others unconditionally. Coexist peacefully with different idea one man mention why is he unwilling to say migrate to U.S.A.: "I have several friends migrating to U.S.A., Canada, they say in letter to me, feel very much difficult cultural custom that incorporated into locality. A brothers of mine has been abroad for nearly ten years, still only like reading Chinese book and newspaper, it is not he that does not understand English, it is not he that wants to keep the spirit of the dragon, but the fun of foreign culture that he can not have a trial test. " I had a psychological woman colleague, migrated to Canada with the husband last year, less than two month, husband saunter, go back Beijing, it says to be from those covered bowl of tea, that unwilling Chinese character, it is in fact loneliness of that insufferable kind of culture shock. The intersection of I and women colleague that, invite others' madam, go with and travel round and add the things coast in the country by car, it is Victorian seashore of Vancouver for a moment, it is a lake of Ontario of Toronto for a moment, happy and harmonious. The Chinese man's heart deep layer has a kind of natural repelling on different kind of culture, this may come from the tradition of closing the border in our spiritual culture, and women look easier to give up and innovate, easier to forgive and admit. Recently, the fashion magazine sends the model on websites, ask: " participate in the formal banquet, you will like to talk with others voluntarily " ? You have a feeling to read these money order receipts to be signed and returned to the sender, rules and taboos in man's heart are more than women. The modern society is that one has open societies more and more, to various admittance attitudes of major culture and non-mainstream culture, it is often society's open sign. And the man lacks perceiving and positive approval to some new ideas. Some man especially repels and makes up, he says he can't tolerate a little false things, it is the real beauty to usually face talents. These words sound reasonable, in fact but correctly few halves, just as saying all ultra and realistic thing all unworthiness, only represent Heart, to the modish sensitivity. Psychology thinks, on the attitude of culture, the man relatively takes notice of male authority and man (used after an attribute)
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