The man minds the lover's past forever
Why does the man always mind the past of his lover? Trace it to its cause, start from a kind of " virgin's superstition " at first ,If oneself is not the first, it is not " tattered " not picking up others a little Taste? This concerns dignity of the true man of men. Secondly is based on a kind of strong one " The personal possessiveness " . Now and future when he should not only occupy her, but also want to occupy her past. Once this " The possessiveness " It is family, colleague, blame that normal exchanges will suffer him to swell fiercely too between the friends. Because the men all think again that should know the lover's past naturally oneself. Seek and ask, see whether her behavior follows the beaten track. Even if quite magnanimous man will ask subconsciously too that is in fear sorry that some anything unpleasant brings all one's life endlessly. What is interesting is, on this, the woman relatively takes philosophically instead, what they comparatively cared about is the present and the future of the lover, so will be everywhere a little more tolerant to the man. Meet the suspicious man of natural disposition, question the personal secrets of women in the past tirelessly. If the wife tells one, he will continue requiring her to tell second, the third. In the face of this kind of situation, even really there was anything in the past, the woman have to touch on lightly a speech has been taken, can't pour beans out of a bamboo tube-withhold nothing " It is explained that honest " . How is the result that the woman answers, to some men, it may be essential. A lot of men say to the woman: "It doesn't matter, whom I loved is you who are present, the past to you does not mind. " In fact, this is totally the lie deceiving oneself as well as others. The man minds the past of the girl friend forever. Modern to write, have such first plot in the novel " the intersection of life and tree " that brilliant idea obey by every writer Japan: One bar maid has handed in a boyfriend, this person tries every means to know she once had a lover in the past, and been cut the face by it. Then, as this person dreams she and old lover and bed sleep altogether at night, shake and wake up her and qustion roughly: " you have been missing him all the time, must have some special things to attract you on him! " This waitress says sadly: " he has only cut a piece of face of mine, however, you are more cruel than he! " A lot of men will inquire like this after developing to certain extent with target's relation of the love: "Before you have dealings with me, who like? What is his job? " "How long ago did that thing appear? To what extent does your relation develop? " The tone that question, it is like piece " distinguish it to be nebulous, it settles it to be misted " to be sometimes terrible Handle a case criminal policeman,sometimes but soft grandmothers which get kindly in picture. This is a man! The ones that quibbled endless this kind of past to the woman practise the addiction, from what it is on earth and come? When both sides fell into the snares of love, women, to exploring the man's past interest was not dense, but men, to the woman's past, animated, ignore one the truth will prevail in the end, will not be willing, why does the man have such a psychological behavior? First, this one that shows men are jealous of fire is strong to exceed women. Someone thinks, it is women's patent to envy, this is really a kind of wrong view, a lot of male jealous hearts are far more than women. Shakespeare have one famous drama call " the Othello ", the intersection of protagonist and Othello its have, come over because of suspicious and resentful wife and other man their, unexpectedly live and live and strangle it. Second, male monopolizing the desire is extremely strong. If she girlfriend of him, until these kind monopolize, feel enough still at the moment man already at present, even hers " Go over " Also it want according to for having already,even not know perfectly well, there are unrealistic thing on this, too obstinately so, if this kind of desire reaches and wins and swells malicously, will produce some abnormal phenomena. That is to say, only allow her to show loving care for him, had better not care about anyone beyond him at all. This kind is almost result that abnormal psychology produces, very frightful sometimes. A lot of contemporary young intellectuals, feel very frightened to give birth to the child after to setting up the family, they think have child, wife will transfer to one's own major part of emotion to child, this is that they are unwilling. Unexpectedly a lot of men think children influence couple's emotion " The other person " . Therefore, what surprising intensity the man's possessiveness arrives strongly! Third, a lot of men think, probe into the past of the girl friend, it is one's own a kind of right, so they cross-examine past of woman but think oneself tolerance narrow and small at all by every means, and does not feel embarrassing, such a man can be found everywhere. But women different, they pay attention to the present and the future of the boyfriend, past to them only, though is interested, the total not merely men so never satisfied until one gets to the bottom of things. Perhaps they think so: "Even if what distinguished and admirable iron things had he had in the past, how concerning about it? Not wasted spirit yet! " The reason why woman can have the the intersection of tolerance and psychology, main social the intersection of impact on the man's tolerance and they. The requirements for man of the traditional social idea are not so strict, the man can put down several room madams, brothel at the all right man, man can hold role as dan, woman to to can only open, closed and only limited to by first eyes while being distinguished and admirable man, it is good and perfectly contented to only ask to oneself. The modern woman's understanding of man still leaves the shade in the past, should say that make progress, require male the present and the future abide by the law and behave oneself some relatively, and the past to the man, it has been investigated that generally not to go. But the traditional society is strict with the woman to the harsh intensity, that a large number of men think all experiences of life that has the right to know the lover oneself till now. So, we can often see such a phenomenon: One very good girl can marry one very bad man, one man will marry one piece in the past very bad, but now very kind woman in the past. In other words, women's " wanton " Or unruly to relent by man, it hides such a to be society's generally acknowledged idea inside the thought of man: Wife man marry must in the past and so that it comes to be pure now. When inquiring after women in the past, inquire after a few words touching on lightly, or run down a convict of, this has depended on the husband's personality. Individual character, sinisterly, intolerant man, want, glue, talk endlessly probably, endless, work as the wife " Make clear one's meaning and position " One piece thing,question he by second at once, be be done by second " make clear one's meaning and position " ,Force her and make the third " Make clear one's meaning and position " ,Such one step is like one step closely, force and does not have a rest. There are a lot of magazine offices now, often receive one kind of such questions that some young women propose: "The past that oneself slips, should be honest to the other side? " The honest result will be probably to get into more trouble out. Certainly, the most ideal method should be pre-marital, he This is honest, forgiven and then touch upon the marriage again. Reason, even so, cruel fact
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