The man's middle aged crisis

The man's middle aged crisis
Men have reached the middle age, because factors such as family's pressure,etc. often produced and escaped the psychology, what behaves but there are the middle aged crises? Is man's middle aged crisis a kind of disease? Family pressure and last psychology and must cause man crises middle aged? The man, have you reached the middle age? To see 5 pieces of manifestation of the middle aged crisis?
Please permit me to use some gentleman's a word as the beginning first: "My mistake this time is not if some decreases friends and says it is careless technically, but the obvious middle aged crisis has appeared on the structure. "
Structural middle aged crisis, (Midlife crisis) ,Abbreviated as the middle aged crisis, is also called man's middle aged crisis, one of the questions canvassed by the Western social psychology, many psychologists have all put forward different statements to this, the sixties of last century, hold Georgia and propose " middle aged crisis " Say, he thinks 35 at the age of 40 the crisis reach summit; Later, have one David propose gentleman, say 40 relatively difficulty between 50 year old. Sri Lankan good fortune say according to 2,100 men and women that him study, find, 34 get 42 -year-old personnel, stratum of manager, have, 80% can escape by luck very much; WenXun Li, researcher of Yale, think 35 to 45 year old obvious crisis period. Also someone thinks, it is not decided by physiological age place that the middle aged crisis is main, but a person's psychological condition. Great wave that the person with appropriate psychological preparation can relatively spend it steadily.
Jung specially treats the middle aged patient on later stage, he finds, most patients of his are good at adapting to the society, and there are remarkable achievements, " middle aged crisis " Reason lie in whether whether it is with heart integration,can't say whether that is popular to lack, therefore still feel the inanition in life unavoidably.
Concrete manifestation of the middle aged crisis
All intelligent educational reputable psychological consultation teacher, therapist's the Huang 's of family drama of Consulting Co., Ltd. are good
1.Undertaking
Keyword: Silence
The expert analyzes: As to a lot of middle aged men, it was the achievement on an undertaking that valued most at this moment. In the undertaking meets the predicament, they choose silence and escape treating, in addition, heart is constrained, so can't see the relation of the thing, apt to make the wrong judgement, even the extreme behavior appears, the serious one of situation will even choose to commit suicide as escaping the method. Especially in the global financial storm, quite a person's undertaking is moving towards the downhill path now, as the middle aged man, they will not choose to share and pour out one's own experience with the person around, but inhibit all questions in the heart, the vicious circle will emerge, cause the emergence of the extreme thing.
Case: 41 -year-old big Liu has been suffering from insomnia all the time recently, colleagues are all discussing the company may be in order to deal with the economic crisis and launch reducing the staff big, reduce the expenditure. Big Liu enters the company for ten years, accomplish the executive's seat with great difficulty, that in the past at this time, what he considered most is how much year-end bonus is, but he was more anxiously and will be fired now, subordinate Zhang, Li or anybody recently working state loud and brave, have danger of perhaps has replaced himming at any time. Such a thing cannot tell wife, anyway she can not help either, maybe look for trouble garrulously yet; Let alone parents say, it is amazing that the elder person can not be got up; Can not say either to the friend, there is no face very much. He even even liked the habit of complaining on the net to lose the interest before, there is not even desire to pour out.
2.Family
Keyword: Pressure
The expert analyzes: If man over 40 relatively gets married early, the child enters teenagers even adult, the economic burden that they need to bear is relatively large, and the important reason why the family changes that this kind of pressure often leads to the fact. Step into man of middle age, unwilling to acknowledge oneself age become old reality, they will try, prove oneself yet have ability to conquer through emotion, but at the same time, they are unwilling to destroy the stability of the family, so inclined to being chosen the love of one night, bubble forms such as the shop,etc. at night. Meanwhile, because of the social reason, the man and age disparity among the wives are usually smaller over 40, their wife may have " middle aged crises " too ,The probability that both sides conflict is increasing greatly, turn into the fuse as the family even more.
Case: It, Lao Wei's wife seems to be telling him carelessly, saw A in China and a young girl to divide taking a cup of ice cream affectionately in the store a few days ago while having a meal: "Do not know whether his wife knows? " Lao Wei speak, this news early in the intersection of they and the 40 year old about classmate, not only A and China, the major part, small gram, village head all have " girlfriend " ,Age over 25 years old, present little girl really open, declare early in the morning: Like the ripe man, does not need status, it is all right to be happy. Lao Wei still stands fast at the position alone, but he himself is anxious, often walk on the bank of the river, where to have not wet shoes! Married for 15 years, life is even more tasteless than boiled waterly dull, when one cannot say for sure not to want to drink the coke Sprite.
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