Man's compulsory psychological health lesson

Man's compulsory psychological health lesson
Life can not be plain sailing, only princess and prince in the fairy tale could enjoy the eternal happiness. Actual life is always challenging, have fun and the agony, just as sing in the song: " the external world is very excellent, the external world is very helpless " . As to the man, life will be more complicated sometimes. Required course that the society sets up for men is " The achievement happens " ,Someone shouts too now " Benefit happens " . But no matter " The achievement " " benefit " It is not so good " Appear " . Then, often see a lot of men dog-tired and nearly go to look for the chance by hook or by crook, it seems that the man originally had no status, only went to " win " desperately ,Can have a place to stick an awl, compare with the good biological characteristic that the woman is congenital and handsome, the man is too difficult! In emotion, the man seems to be all practising a kind of " disappear " all one's life Time: There are tears that can't flow, say " a man does not easily shed tears " on even archaism ; Bitter can't tell, otherwise will be criticized " weakly " . Zeng someone says, it is role of the society and biological role that are " conspiring " Getting men down, so the man's average life span is well below women. However, no matter it is " difficult " how much the men are ,There is a lot of " Bitter " ,Life should go on, bravery makes great efforts to adapt to the environment in the face of the challenge of living, adjusted one's own mood, it was men that should do. Angry to it maltreats oneself angry to be we in situation that often can run into under life, even " made me extremely angry " All a kind of common pet phrase. Dispute with the boss in the company, or " impervious to reason " at home Wife speak left without an argument, be sulky on cornered when sitting alone usually men. That kind of sense of defeat is and difficult to express with the language to lose, in fact, where is there so much air carefully? Say in the book on American once in one by name sociologist " angry ", mood misunderstood have ": "It is not a kind of inborn mood and behavior to be angry, will learn the day after tomorrow. Whether people are angry, it was oneself that decides. " That is to say, it can controlled by oneself that people are angry. That's why to the same thing, someone so angry as to stamp with rage, someone is happy and pleased with oneself and not placing it on in the heart at all. So, so long as you understand that angry that one's own make oneself difficult, maltreat oneself, you would not often let oneself go naturally " Die with rage " ,it regard not being angry as not to be unless you by flavoring agent of life. Should want to be non- angry, in fact very easy too, listen to the expert's instruction. First of all, should adjust one's own thought, it thinks so to remind oneself, anything has fine or not two sides, let's think about the good side. In addition, try to let oneself delay getting angry. If the directness that you meet a thing reflects it is to get angry, try, delay breaking out in your consistent way 15 seconds later. Will delay for 30 seconds next time, will be extending this time constantly, once you see you can delay getting angry, you have already learnt to control. It delays to be to control, practise more, can at all dispel finally. Secondly, remind oneself when being angry, everybody has the right to become the appearance that he wants to become, you require others need like that, it is angry to receive for oneself to look for just. In addition, when being angry, close to the person that you love, look for " love " at their place Go to neutralize your hostility. Another kind of most cumbersome method, it is to do an " angry diary " ,Write down angry precise time, place, thing, all angry behaviors. You will find soon, if is often angry, only write " angry diary " This trouble can force you to be little and angry. Depressed, positive and upward formidable enemy The modern life is tense, high pressure, and people do not have too much time to understand each other and communicate, then, a kind of more common bad mood while becoming modern life that depressed. Perhaps fail in love, perhaps it is that you do not have because others have been promoted, no matter which kind of situation, falling into depressed mood will decline to an enormous extent, even the enthusiasm that the most interested thing can't evoke you at ordinary times, heart suffers unspeakably, and often insomnia, appetite drop and even will present disheartened and desperate mood, courage to lose life. It is to change one's own cognitive way to dispel the depressed most effective method, increase the flexibility that thinks, it don't waste time and effort trying to study an insignificant or insoluble problem to ponder over the question objectively. And a commonly used training method is doing " The shouldering idea " Diary record,content include: Date, scene, at that time mood (write down depressed anxious intensity, spend, 0 say, have, use 100 to express that strongest) . At that time " The shouldering idea " Should write down in time, by next correction. In these " The shouldering idea " Record in,you be treated to be will not be able to go these things in the capacity of onlookered, will find you, you who are depressed often ponder over the question like this: Absolutely thinking, always assess oneself in an extreme way not black namely white. In fact, a lot of black fuzzy color not between two in vain of right and wrong in life, do you why bother determine the nature by a pair of oneself again? The typical thinking of the unhappy man is assumed subjectively: Fact in having according to foundation at last passive conclusion. Anything will have a factual evidence, do not think your expression in one's eyes was so hospitable as in the past according to today boss alone, so far as it is funny to draw the conclusion that the boss is unsatisfied with you. Why do you know the boss because quarrel, so feel blue with madam today? In order to simply cover completely: Catch the detail part, make the passive judgement to the whole. It is to fall into the depressed most direct and most effective method to quote a remark out of its context. Consider the thing should be overall, don't catch and does not set free at all, unless you want and " have a contest " by oneself . Individualize: Take the initiative and impute all others' faults, mistakes to oneself, bear responsibility for others' unfortunate and fault. Sometimes " There is conscience very much " Will make oneself stranded. It is not all things involved in you that do breaking, are all your mistakes. It is right to introspect oneself, but don't criticize severely oneself very much, you do not miss even oneself, is there your means of subsistence in the world in this?

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