Sad that the man learns to express The woman learns to express and get angry

Sad that the man learns to express The woman learns to express and get angry
Brief content:Sad that the man wants to learn, the woman should learn anger. Particularly, it is the man that needs to learn to express one's own true feeling, including those fragile, helpless, feelings at a loss. And the woman needs to clearly express the feeling with true heart, including one's own angry mood and one's own need, hope, needn't conceal one's own all feelings through the way that gentle and agreeable, will just have true contact between couple in this way, no matter frank discussion, or healthy quarrel, will reflect mutual heart very clearly.
Case: Couple's conflict, how sad the wife is, how angry the husband is.
Small duckweed and the intersection of A and forest marry one year, the intersection of A and work of forest very busy, have no time to accompany the small duckweed. The small duckweed has been felt to be sad, say to the forest of A: "You did not care about me like that in the past. " It is very angry to hear the forest of A, " my new job should face so many things, so busy, why do not you know that understand? Say I do not care about you, when do you care about me? " Criticism on husband, sex Gwen and light duckweed is getting sadder. Later, the small duckweed had a depression, moving comes home.
Analysis: Concealing the true feeling.
This is a kind of very common scenes of couple's conflict. Look that seem to have no questions. Because in China's traditional culture, the man must be excellent, eager to excel in whatever one does and wanting everything to do well, and it accepts to lose the temper. And being just forbearing and conciliatory, obedient, girl should shed tears alone quietly, this just reflects women's virtue and quality. So the boy's thinking takes shape " I am eager to excel in whatever one does " Mode. Then, the man does not advocate other emotion, only tolerate even approve angrily, because is strong when being angry. The thoughtcast that and the girl learnt while as a child is " I should be obedient " ,Can't be angry, because is once angry, she is not " obedient " (used after a verb to indicate the completion of an action).
A lot of women will not be angry in all one's life, will only be sad. A lot of men have no any fragile showing, the way to only express mood is the anger in all one's life, just like forest of small duckweed and A where this text begins. The small duckweed thinks that has just shown that sad oneself, already very gentle, virtuous, having shown consideration for enough, it is rebuked to one's face at once but the result is then one the forest of A, will be sadder naturally. She may realize she except that sad, have a lot of angry mood and want what that say express. But heard the condemnation secretly from the sadness of the little duckweed in the forest of A, this has evoked his angrier criticism. While going off, have not realized either, he has much emotion to need satisfying too in the forest of A, such as helpless and sad.
It is the expression true naturally of the human emotion to be angry, and the small duckweed is used to keeping angry mood in the deep heart, with sad to come, conceal only, very apt victim to become depression. Face all difficult the intersection of A and forest with angry mood used toing but speech, can't all express his emotion and need either.
Solve: Sad that the man is studying, the woman is studying anger.
The man should understand: How strongly whom the woman needs is not the husband, but want him to wide open and harbour, with sharing and experiencing by oneself. The woman should understand: The man has fragile side too, but is often concealing, the man needs her more consideration and cares about.
Sad that the man wants to learn, the woman should learn anger. Particularly, it is the man that needs to learn to express one's own true feeling, including those fragile, helpless, feelings at a loss. And the woman needs to clearly express the feeling with true heart, including one's own angry mood and one's own need, hope, needn't conceal one's own all feelings through the way that gentle and agreeable, will just have true contact between couple in this way, no matter frank discussion, or healthy quarrel, will reflect mutual heart very clearly.
The marriage will not be quarrelled over and destroyed, the correct quarrel way will often make the marriage healthier, but the marriage will be destroyed by the false way of communication. Only men and women adjusted each the way of communication which the gender role limited in the past, could prevent the submerged reef that touch the marriage ahead of time.
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